Frames of reference

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I might have ADHD. I might not. But as I recently started looking back at my life through an ADHD frame of reference, a whole lot of things finally made sense.

I am close to 30 years old and I have never seriously entertained the thought before now. I don鈥檛 really feel guilty about this, as in some ways our societal understanding of all areas of neurodivergence seems to be currently maturing. I think I had people close to me joke about it once or twice over my life, but my 鈥渢raits鈥 have never been severe enough to demand immediate intervention. That, I suppose, is fortunate. However, from the first moment the switch went off in my head and started really considering it, the next week was a series of 鈥渙h wow鈥 moments as I realised how many parts of my personal and professional life a potential ADHD had been affecting.

For me the big game-changer was this new聽frame of reference聽that my brain might not be producing dopamine as consistently as it does in a 鈥渘eurotypical鈥 brain. Where I had previously assumed I was just being dramatic when I said that 鈥渢hings get quickly boring for me鈥 and that 鈥渂oredom was physically painful,鈥 through this new ADHD聽frame of reference, these feelings not only made sense, but helped to explain life-long-running issues I had with sleep, relationships, project work and a host of other areas I had always struggled with.

Now, I am not a psychologist, so my understanding is quite shallow. I know I should be careful not to blame聽别惫别谤测迟丑颈苍驳听on a potential ADHD, but my point here is about how new聽frames of reference聽can be a game changer for our self understanding. If you have been wrestling with specific issues over years, it might be worth considering it is not simply 鈥渓ack of willpower鈥 or 鈥渓aziness.鈥 There might actually be a new, more helpful聽frame of reference聽for you to explore.

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