Connection is essential

As an introvert, I鈥檝e long been beholden to the idea that I don鈥檛 need people, not really. I don鈥檛 feel restless or lonely if I spend too much time by myself, in fact, I often welcome it.聽

But in the wake of COVID-19 and the recent period of enforced self-isolation, I鈥檝e realised that, even though I may not always be fully cognisant of it, I聽诲辞听need other people. I need the connection that talking and laughing with others sparks. Its effect on me is subtle: I don鈥檛 go from feeling sad one moment to聽joyful the next, but I do notice a change聽in how I carry myself. I can breathe a little easier, see a little clearer; I鈥檓 lighter somehow.

The problem is, it can be hard to seek out contact with others when you grow accustomed to the walls you鈥檝e built around yourself. While it鈥檚 no fault of the people themselves, the very act of reaching out can feel like a chore, as if the gap between you and the outside world is simply too large to close.聽

But when you do reach out, the result is immediately gratifying. It鈥檚 not until the Zoom call connects and the familiar faces appear that you remember how good and how important it is to be seen and heard. To talk, to listen, to laugh, to re-establish the bonds that were always there, that refuse to come undone.聽

So, don鈥檛 pull away when it feels hard, and don鈥檛 mistake connecting with others for something frivolous. It鈥檚 necessary, and you鈥檒l be all the better for it.聽

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